We’ve all heard the term “Mommy Wars.” It just doesn’t sound right. Moms are supposed to be peaceful role models for their children. We teach our kids not to fight, to think of other people’s feelings, and to be kind to others. I have struggled the last few months to find just the right words to sum up my thoughts on the “Mommy Wars.” Turns out I don’t need to find the right words; one picture has a thousand of them! So, why not include a whole bunch of pictures? I was inspired to create my own photo montage with local Hudson Valley moms after I read the CT Working Moms Group blog a year ago. I sent out the call to arms to all my Whatever mom friends. They eagerly jumped on board!
As the project unfolded, I realized I know most of the moms pictured here personally. We all met through a Hudson Valley Moms’ Facebook group. We’ve celebrated birthdays together, brought each other meals, and have encouraged and supported each other through the trials of motherhood. There we were standing next to each other smiling and holding signs reflecting our “opposing” mom choices. This just goes to show that even though we make different choices for our families, we can still be friends and even respect each other’s personal choices. Without the different opinions and choices presented by other moms in my circle I wouldn’t know I have options in my parenting.
I admit I am still a little confused as to why we even have a war going on. My mom world does not come to a screeching halt when a mom decides to feed her kid formula or non-organic potatoes or even McDonald’s for dinner. I don’t even feel a slight shift in the wind when a mom uses 409 to clean her floors. And, I’m quite sure that if a mom falls at the playground and no one is around to hear her she still swears like a trucker (oh wait, that’s probably just me).
Most people hear Mommy wars and picture this:
I hear Mommy wars and picture this:
I am convinced that not once has a Harvard grad mentioned in their acceptance speech their gratitude for their mother keeping a meticulous house; making perfect dinners and throwing over the top birthday parties; nor cited those exact reasons for all their success. I am also convinced that if at the end of the day you have kept your kid safe and alive, you’ve pretty much done your job. We all bear the same burden of motherhood. By burden I mean the labels (fun mom, mean mom, Pintrest mom) and the judgments (spoils her child, doesn’t discipline, too strict). No matter what our style of mothering is, we have all run the same course: stomach bugs, sleepless nights and feelings of self-doubt. All of these quintessential mom moments level the battlefield on which we fight our “Mommy war.” None of us is free from flaws, and certainly none of us makes perfect decisions. We all have the same end goal- to raise healthy, happy and productive humans. Does it really matter what path we follow to get them there?
So here’s your call to arms Whatever Moms: do whatever it takes to let go of your fears and worries that you are not enough. Take up the charge to own your mom choices. Decide right now to be confident in your decisions because any decision we make in the best interest of our children is the best decision we can make for them. The question isn’t “which side are you on?” The question is, “can we all stand together?”
SPECIAL THANK YOU TO: Danielle Sidarous for lending your excellent photography skills. Your time and talent is very much appreciated! All the moms who participated in creating this montage. Thank you for your commitment to helping me complete this project! And my husband, Keith for racing home to help twin wrangle while I got to do something besides wipe butts all day!
Important note: republication of these photos is expressly prohibited without consent from Danielle Sidarous.
85 thoughts on “The Whatever Mom Wants You to Join the Whatever Army!”
Pingback: Give A Kid The Gift of Swag! |
Pingback: Let Go Of The Perfect Holiday | the whatever mom
Pingback: May You Always Have Enough- Announcing 12 Days of Service | the whatever mom
Pingback: Black Friday Favorites- Barefoot Books! **Exclusive Discount** | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The First Day of Service Host a Food Drive | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Second Day of Service Host a Coat Drive | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Third Day of Service Make a Special Delivery | the whatever mom
Pingback: Hudson Valley Charitable Giving Guide |
Pingback: On The Fourth Day of Service Send Some Cheer | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Fifth Day of Service Give Some Swag | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Sixth Day of Service Rise Together | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Seventh Day of Service Make a Furry Friend | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Eighth Day of Service Express Your Gratitude | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Ninth Day of Service Share Your Spirit | the whatever mom
Pingback: On the Tenth Day of Service Give the Gift of Your Best Self | the whatever mom
Pingback: Set A Place For Santa – DIY Cookie Plate |
Pingback: On The Eleventh Day of Service Give A Stranger Warmth | the whatever mom
Pingback: On The Twelfth Day of Service Give a Merry Makeover | the whatever mom
Pingback: Wanting Perfection: The Struggle Is Real | the whatever mom
Pingback: DIY Magic Reindeer Food- A Christmas Eve Tradition |
Pingback: FRIDAY FAVORITES INGLOT REVIEW AND GIVEAWAY FROM FACE BEAUTY STUDIO! | the whatever mom
Pingback: Secret Sister Gift Exchange, Scam or Solidarity | the whatever mom
Pingback: Here It is The Eve of Christmas |
Pingback: Family Fun on New Year’s Eve |
Pingback: Sit Down! Shut Up! I’M In Control Here! | the whatever mom
Pingback: Indoor Wintertainment |
Pingback: Friday Favorites – Alyssa Milano | the whatever mom
Pingback: She’s Come Undone | the whatever mom
Pingback: Keep Kids Engaged Through Cooking |
Pingback: Friday Unfavorites- Computer Crash | the whatever mom
Pingback: The Bitterness In My Parenting | the whatever mom
Pingback: DIY Fossil Cookies |